Personally, I've always found it best to look at another person for who they are as a person, rather than as a "this, that or the other thing". Categories are convenient for reference sometimes but you can't really sum up a person in a few words or paragraphs. The only real way is to get to know them personally. Even then, I prefer to use the person's name rather then pronouns when possible. Who we and others are is in no way simplistic as you also say Hon.
