Honestly -
1 - Congratulations for not losing your mind. Dealing with someone who is insane is terribly taxing, because they ( and most other people ) do not know they are insane.
2 - A good lawyer will advise you that if you fight the order, she will probably claim that you sexually abused your children.
3 - weak people need to "win".
4 - If you can PROVE that she has be DIAGNOSED with BPD ... you can maybe , after a long fight, realize you lose.
5 - Get a SENSIBLE lawyer who has good PSYCHIATRIC friends or has dealt with many cases LIKE THIS.
( Best Divorce lawyer in the world is no good for the dude on trial for murder ... and vice versa )
6 - Set a 2 year plan to have her removed from the children's lives completely ... but only if you are willing
to be the sole parent and can deal with her being institutionalized due her intentional damage to your
children's development. After all, you dress in women's clothing for recreation and act like a woman
just as some people do Shakespeare in the park and pretend they are Romeo.
This is about power and winning for her. There is no "compromise". She will not stop unless you are jailed.
She WANTS you to react and give her an EXCUSE to call the police.
SHE WANTS THIS... so she can tell your kids what a nutbar you are.
Go seek legal remedy for THAT behavior on her part.
But understand, the best thing you might be able to do is
Get a JUDGE ( same one who granted the ORDER ) to mediate a session where you send a lawyer to her & her lawyer
( you are NOT present )
where your lawyer ASKS for rights to give Xmas presents
and ASKS for a counselor to talk to your children ( one YOU hire ) about the mom dad issues and help them cope & understand
She would be shown as a NUT for denying this.
The person you hire can tell them their mother is mentally ill ( depending how old they are ) and that you want to see them but she has told lies and you don't want her to take it out on them or whatever.
Truth is ... for your own safety & fredom, you need to SAVE YOURSELF.
See, if you get jailed or shot by police and one day mom decides to kill herself or gets killed lipping off to another person
.... you can't help your kids.
So ... save yourself first.
Originally Posted by StephanieJ
This isn't the point. It's only a "nitpick" for her. Truly, the CD life probably HUMILIATED her ... and she must now punish you/
But ... don't make your argument include a legal activity ... don't defend it ... it's not the issue.
