I know exactly what you feel. I started dressing fully - wig, makeup etc - last july. I started losing weight and so far went from 265 lbs and 46 in waist to 190 lbs and a 36 in waist...I am 5' 4 in.
I can see the girl everywhere especially after a shower with no makeup or anything and wet hair combed back. It is a bit scary when I see Ellen and I am dressed as a man. The more weight I lose the more I see her. It doesn't help that I do not have much in the way of male clothes that fit anymore. I need to buy some but everytime I go to a store she takes over....