I've dropped 40 pounds over the last few years ST (since Tina). Part of my agreement with my wife is that we keep the two gendered selves as separate as possible. One of the reasons for the separation is to identify the parts of me that have always been Tina but just were not understood to be her! We did it slowly so that as the pieces fit together it's been possible to identify and separate the girl from the boy. For example, I walk as a boy when in boy mode, but just let me slip on heels and I can flip in an instant to Tina. As this was evolving I remember wondering if I could just suddently decide to walk like Tina and although it took a moment of thought wearing boy shoes, I was able to flip back and forth.
I really like understanding the differences between my genders and having control over when I switch and when I don't, but it does take thought sometimes to, effectively, act like a Roman when in Rome!
