I applaud you for doing this extremely difficult thing, opening up honestly to her. I have read of other cders, whose wives were not too pleased about it at first, but over time, came to accept it, and even enjoy it. But, that is not always the way the story ends. I empathize with you. It will not be very easy for a while, and what you said could happen, may happen. I suffer great anxiety too, and am sorry that i told a number of church friends, who told others, and now i am not so close anymore. I am pretty much of a loner now. Even though i don't dress that often. I hope your wife will be willing to at least check into this site, to learn. One day at a time. Easy does it. Alice
