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[flatlander_48]

@Jenn, Maria & Tina - thanks for your support!

@flatlander - yes, my voice was very calm. My wife was too. I'm almost always calm - at least on the surface. I'm so calm that it's often difficult to tell when I'm really upset. But in this case, I was calm, and happy to answer her questions. It's a little bit of a difficult dance though. I want to be honest, but I don't want to overwhelm her.

I said that you were doing good, but Hell, I didn't say it was going to be easy!?!?!?

So I admitted to having a wig, but I didn't tell her that I had a nice set of breast forms. I did tell her where I got the wig - so it wouldn't be difficult to guess that I might well have purchased forms from the same store, but she didn't ask that, so I didn't tell her. I didn't want to freak her out. I am trying to think of this as "controlled doses of the truth."

Yes, at places where I've worked, we call it Managing The News...

I also haven't told her that I have a small collection of cosmetics. (Drug store stuff mostly - I really need to go to the mall for a makeover, and to buy some better quality stuff.) Still, while I'm learning the basics, I figure the cheaper stuff is better - I suck at applying it still, so wasting it is a little less painful.

I am feeling more positive about the future. I think we have a chance. There's still a long way to go, and so many unknowns though. My wife is a hell of a woman though, and she's trying hard, and this is something she's so ill prepared for.

Continued Good Luck...

One other thing: For things that you haven't told her about yet, make CERTAIN that she doesn't find out before you discuss it. Remember, (1) Oh S++t cancels (12) Atta Girls, At Least...