lynn...You are what you are..
You are trying to shoehorn your life situation into your identity.. for ts people its often not possible..and people are giving you all kinds of different angles and feedback about it...
There are many transgendered people here and they will rightly say you can live a gender blended lifestyle if you are transgendered...one confusing thing is that some of them will insist they are transsexual...and somehow be ok with living what is basically a male life... thats fine, maybe they are, but they are not suffering the deep deep gender dyshporia that causes other people to give up on life unless there is a prospect for transition...unfortunately for them, if they are ts, they will know what i'm talking about someday..
and then we have crossdressers trying to give you life lessons hoping to support you and perhaps they are well intentioned but their posts are more about them identifying with ts women than providing support.
...its like telling a clinically depressed person "hey look at me !! i'm happy!!! just be happy like me!!! Look at me!!! I didnt need meds!!! You dont either!!!"
its not about what's right or wrong..
its that IF you are ts, and if you are suffering bad gender dysphoria... the decisions you are making are very likely to not work out the way you want..
