I second the Unitarian church suggestion.
I also go against the grain of "get her interested and then tell her" I think that you have a better chance of a lasting relationship if you look in the pool of women who you already know are (or are likely) accepting. You could find 20 women and begin to build a relationship and end up right back where you started with each one once you come out. Or you can find women who are ok with the CD and see which one of them you could build something with.
I'm absolutely cool with the CD thing, but I won't be with someone who is not honest and up front with me. I'm not the only one.
