Jennifer, I did not mean that just the "reveal" itself (the act of revealing) would end a strong relationship. I do believe that it is possible, even when based on nothing more than revealing something that to the other party that is totally unacceptable to them, that goes against their own beliefs or whatever. I would guess that in a strong relationship, that most of the time the issues would be able to be over come. However, my post was also meant to state that I believe that there is every possibility that over time that strong relationships can fail because one party is doing something that the other does not approve of, and that includes crossdressing, as well as, the other examples I gave in my earlier post here and probably many others that someone else can mention. It is not a cop out, it is the reality of one of the parties that can not accept that new information in any way, no matter how hard they try.

I totally understand that maybe most strong relationships may be able to weather the reveal and the mid to long term adjustments that both parties try to make to keep the relationship going. I also think that even some shaky relationships can weather the storm too. However, I totally disagree that "all" strong relationships will survive over the long term. There are just too many variables in people, relationships and personal circumstances that come into play, that are not necessarily obvious or even known to either party when the crossdressing comes into the picture to be able to state as strongly and often crossdressing will not break up strong relationships. That to me is totally unreasonable. If you would state that in most circumstances it should not fail, then I would agree. There are very few absolutes in this crazy and unpredictable world of ours, especially when concerning humans, except death, taxes and some laws of nature.

I would like to believe that what you say is totally correct, but I see too many breakups for all kinds of reasons, including a very important one that people can and do change over time, they may lose interest in one thing and have new interests that may seem totally out of character to the ones that are closest to them, like SO's, family and friends. Sometimes those new interests, or hidden interests, that were unknown to them are just not acceptable to them, even though they have a great relationship with zero issues up to that moment. They may try to adapt, tolerate and may even say that they accept it and support their SO, but as can be seen so many times on this site, sometimes the SO just can't live with it over the long term, thus the surprise reversal in feelings when least expected. Are all those relationships perfect, probably not, but then I really haven't seen many perfect ones, including some of those that lasted forever, but were really just a sham for a long time.

I do think that just as with other relationship issues both parties should try as hard as possible to identify all the causes for their problems and make every effort twice or three times before calling it quits. That includes counseling, compromise, and working to improve their individual communication processes and skills, which for many people are very difficult to learn.