One of the hard parts about all of this is that inappropriate behavior will usually catch us off guard...and the more outrageous the more we aren't ready for it.
One piece of self defense is to think through ahead of time what kinds of responses might be available to you. It doesn't solve the problem but can help to moderate and focus thought. Sometimes you can "see it coming" from gestures, language, or level of inebriation, hoping that the "ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure" pathway can be a winner.
And then there are the times that no matter how we prepare we just need to be in someone's face. Yelling outrageously and making public what the jerk is doing often helps. It's embarassing, but effective. When all else fails, sometimes physical response is all there is.
And that's what I've never understood. If they know we're CD, then they know it's probably the case that we are very capable of defending ourselves. If a guy grabs Tina's butt doesn't he assume he's going to get an elbow ramming into a rib? Tina's quite capable of cracking a rib that way, or at least bruising it badly. Just never made sense to me
