Once I began to better understand how gender identity and attraction work for those of us who blur gender lines, I realized what I think a lot of us simply refuse to admit. It is that those who find men attractive when they are in femme mode also find men attractive in boy mode, they simply do not allow themselves to admit it in order to protect the male ego and keep it as intact as possible.
A lot of CDers will argue with this until they're blue in the face, but I think many simply do not realize how their subconscious works to protect the ego, and honestly, most of the time, they do feel internally as though they are being honest with regard to their non-attraction to the male form while in drab mode. But, if those individuals did some real, unfettered soul-searching, I personally am convinced they would find that the girly clothes they are wearing are just a motivator to become more sexually charged (aroused) and thus more open to, and responsive to, sexual stimuli. Being in girl mode very easily becomes an excuse to be OK with being into guys, because the excuse of "having a girly side" is often enough to protect the ego, if one negotiates the concession properly with their subconscious.
I found that once I let go of this, and believe me, it was a struggle, then I realized I was correct in my suspicion, and also that the pool of people that I can be attracted to grew by nearly 100%. It's also nice to, for once, be able to be honest about seeing a cute guy and not having all the internal negative noise going on... Ahh, sweet freedom!
