Suzy is staying in her closet

[suzy1]

Having been around professional motorsports and drivers (as well as other professional athletes), I really wonder if your life would be over. Seems that the job you do on the course should be what makes you in the sport, not the underwear you wear.
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I think its time to paint the complete picture here. [And thanks for the support from some of you girls]

If you watch Motorcycle racing, Moto GP, World Superbikes, or the British superbike Championships then you have seen me!
These races are now broadcast worldwide on T.V. [Eurosport, sky T.V. and so on]

When you see some marshals [usually in orange fireproof overalls] run out on track to help a rider get up and off the track or get the bike off the track during a race I am sometimes one of those Marshals.

Now lets see what would happen if I stood up for 'us girls' and they became aware that I crossdress.
First of all the news that Suzy [not the name I go by as a marshal] wears a dress would spread like wildfire and every marshal in the country [about 350] would know as most of them know me personally.
But hang on, it gets worse.......much worse!

One of the best race commentators on T.V. is Jamie Whitham. He is a Yorkshire man with a wicked sense of humour. Nothing that goes on in the sport gets past him.

So the next race and crash! I bike goes hurtling down the track and yours truly is out there clearing up the bits.
so what does Jamie Whitham say when he sees me on the monitor in the commentators box?..........
"Thats the marshal that dresses up as a women".........now the whole b****y world knows!!!!!
And all my marshal friend wills never look at me in quite the same way again. I will become the sports biggest joke.

I am getting a bit angry here so I had better go now.

[Helen_Highwater]

Suzy,
I hope this doesn't mess with your mind as it were but did you consider that they suspected you? That it was an attempt to provoke a reaction? Not in the sense of outright rebuttal or defense of CD's but to look for those subtle "Tells" as the poker players say, the slight blush of embarrassment, a shift in posture, oh so many ways in which we subliminally react to these situations that says,"Gotch ya".

Or this could be just another of my daft conspiracy theories.

But in defense of leaving the closet. It's a bit like reading the statistics for road deaths in say somewhere like India as using that as an excuse for not going there on holiday or for that matter even leaving the house in the UK. It's all too easy to focus on the negative and end up missing out on wonderful experiences. Having said that I do truly respect your decision. It's as valid as any other, certainly mine.

[ReineD]

But Helen, in defense of Suzy, how on earth could she ever have a good time while out, if she adamantly doesn't want to go out. Seems to me the stress would be high enough to make the outing unpleasant.

Suzy, you have my full support for wanting to stay in. It's your life so it's your call.

[Julie Gaum]

Suzy, fully understand and support your stand under your circumstances, i.e., family and friends would not be accepting so why ruin your life? Not everybody need be a standard bearer. As you know I recently came out after 80+ years but that doesn't make me a hero as older brother is in a hospital up north, and rest of my family have either passed or live far away, and anyways I first came out in the First Edition in 2002 so what do I have to lose? Nothing. As far as being picked on
by some young idiot --- not likely on old ladies. So, other than health issues, I'm free, which is ironic as it's so late in life. You are out in a way when in your friend's mansion.
Always
Julie

[suzy1]

Suzy,
I hope this doesn't mess with your mind .

don't worry, it can't. My mind is way to strong.

There is an undercurrent running here in this thread [and in the forum]. Just what are the motives behind some of the members that promote the 'get out of the closet' so fiercely?
Is it some sort of insecurity in there own lives I wonder?
But I am no psychiatrist so I will leave it you to ponder on.

A happy well balanced girl in a party dress.

[KristyE]

Suzy, You do what makes you comfortable and happy, thats what all of this xdressing is about.
Love Kristy

[Rogina B]

Last Sunday I was at a race circuit [Brands Hatch] and it was the lunch brake for us marshals, six of us.
So for some reason men that wear dresses came up in the conversation.
After about five minutes of jokes about the ‘weirdoes that dress like a woman’ the conversation moved on.

Will I come out of the closet anytime soon?..................I think not!

"Five minutes" ??? That is what caught my attention and "caused that undercurrent" you feel...Five minute is a lot of time to joke about one subject close to you..A person can make "the point of acceptance" in lot's of social situations,without "outing themselves" nor offending others that "need help in accepting another persons life choices". If they ever figure you out,you may have wished that you took a stand of diversity,that's all.

[Ressie]

What's that song? If you knew Suzy, like I know Suzy, oh, oh, oh what a gal! Men will be boys. It's groupthink time both there and here. Revealing proclivities isn't for me either.

[suzy1]

"Five minutes" ??? That is what caught my attention and "caused that undercurrent" you feel...Five minute is a lot of time to joke about one subject close to you..A person can make "the point of acceptance" in lot's of social situations,without "outing themselves" nor offending others that "need help in accepting another persons life choices". If they ever figure you out,you may have wished that you took a stand of diversity,that's all.

First, five minutes was a figure of speech.
Second, they will not 'find me out because I am not that stupid [really!]
Three, if you think you can defend a subject like that without possibly 'outing yourself' then you don't know much about the average group of 'blokes' on a marshals post.
Four, about 'others needing help in being accepted' sorry but your on your own there. I am only thinking of No 1 here. Condemn me for that if you wish.

What's that song? [I]If you knew Suzy, like I know Suzy, oh, oh, oh what a gal!r.

To know her is to love her.

[Helen_Highwater]

Suzy,
Let me reiterate, I to support your decision. We're all different and long may it be so. I've made no bones about being me in the closet. I don't want friends, work colleagues, family to know. That's why when I do venture out it's as far away as possible from home. So I draw a distinction between being out and going out. Although it may seem to be a contradiction or paradox, I keep my going out private except to those here. I try to be as anonymous as is possible. Personal safety is high on my agenda when I do venture forth and so far so good. If I look back over the past 10 years, I've encountered more yobbish behavior in male mode than ever in fem.
I hope when writing about experiences enfem and in the public domain I don't put pressure on anyone to do the same if it's not for them. Having said that there are many threads here of gals who want to take that step and are looking for reassurance and support and as some who's a relatively inexperienced newcomer, still an apprentice in the art, it's for them I write.
I know you will be true to yourself and I applaud you for that.