"Five minutes" ??? That is what caught my attention and "caused that undercurrent" you feel...Five minute is a lot of time to joke about one subject close to you..A person can make "the point of acceptance" in lot's of social situations,without "outing themselves" nor offending others that "need help in accepting another persons life choices". If they ever figure you out,you may have wished that you took a stand of diversity,that's all.