Sounds like you have your hands full here. I have a son who is diagnosed with Aspergers's. Sexuality or gender issues has no role in Asperger's. Those are completely separate. Aspergers's may depending on how severe add to more confusion, because with Asperger's their world is very black and white. I would even have some additional opinions on your sons diagnosis here, Asperger's is I believe becoming a little too popular and too easy for experts to be diagnosing at this point. And too many are reactive about Asperger's IMO.