There are few gender variant tolerant places in the USA.
1. San Francisco/San Jose/bay area
2. Los Angeles/Long Beach/Ventura
3. Palm Springs (but not the rest of the Coachella Valley) - Palm Springs has a huge gay population
Maybe tolerant places - I'm basing this on a list of states that have transgender protection laws so it's purely speculation
1. Seattle
2. Minneapolis
3. Boston
4. NYC
Even DC isn't tolerant. I tried buying women's clothes in DC and got rude comments from the SA's on several occasions. I never had any trouble shopping in California.
I'm pretty sure Bakersfield ain't tolerant.