By the way, why didn't you tell her? Shame.

[Lorileah]

I think this forum gives us a false sense of security, since we are all of like minds here. We may feel like there are many of us when we are on this forum, when actually in the real word we are probably few. Comments on the forum often make you feel that once you have told your wife or significant other, everything will turn out great,

Oh my young friend you will learn that this isn't even close to true. Maybe half the people here get the thumbs up, the other half go through hell