Perhaps Paula is in a hurry to be in a loving, understanding, accepting relationship. Perhaps that's just as respectful as her former spouse outing her, against her will on multiple occasions. But I suppose that was Paula's fault as well? You must live in a perfect little paradigm where its easy to reveal gender dysphoria, where ultimatums like you gave your husband are an example of true Love. I mean, how is giving an ultimatum like that an example of Love or understanding?
I suppose it never occurred to you that your husband might have been resistant in telling you the truth because deep down he knew you'd have that sort of pent up frustration, anger, bias and resentment and acceptance, true acceptance, would never be something you were capable of. So with him fearful of that, who'd blame a spouse for harboring secrets.
Paula did violate some trust in her marriage. I think we all understand that, and we do not see her former spouse as the villain here. Yes, some of the spouses actions were distasteful. But does that mean paula should pine away for a woman that no longer wants her, and was willing to exhibit such vengeful action as outing her? I think not. She set some courses of action in motion, just like Paula did. But spouting vile rhetoric and blame fixes nothing.
