Hi Kendra. I take the view that gender expression is about as varied as the individual so I'm a bit puzzled that you would assume that that we all fit in one stereotype of another. I'm, frankly, neither Ken nor Kendra. I am what I am. My wife not only accepts that but encourages it. She doesn't think that she's having her nose rubbed in some kind of unacceptable mtf transition because she knows very well that I am neither interested in passing as a woman nor interested in transitioning. She knows that what I'm doing is rejecting the social norms for my gender identification as some masculine male but she also knows I'm not interested in becoming some feminine female. She accepts me as gender fluid or genderqueer and always has, and we've been married a long, long time. She's a bit more butch than I am and I'm a bit more femme. I suspect that the majority of cross dressers are more like me than you might think. They want to honor their feminine qualities but dressing a bit but don't want to reject their masculinity. If they have real and communicative relationships with their SOs, instead of flailing around trying to ram each other into socially prescribed roles, their SOs probably support them. But I don't know. Maybe you're right and every man who wears women's clothes wants to be, completely, a woman. I don't, but more and more on this discussion board I'm beginning to think I am some kind of anomaly.
