Since coming out to my wife, and yes underdressing is part of our agreement . As La Cage Aux Folles was not happening here, her words when we had the TALK ,, Some spouse aren't ready for that level of transformation. I know right now mine isn't, but we are slowly working in that direction.
I wish it was so easy to seperate guy mode from girl dressing mode. But for those of us who have let the genie out of the bottle. You quickly realize that your a lot more than a CD. There are so many like that here on this forum.And most spouses either sense it or quickly see it. So yes there is a cost to the relationship , and you realize it . Do you feel good about it , NO you don't. We are not rubbing it in there faces, but just wearing them. Completes us , you quickly realize that there's a lot of girl in you. The clothes are secondary though. There is no separation of guy/girl for us. We let the feminine merge and reshape , to what we have always felt deep down.
I guess night after night after night as well as I can figure, is my gender issues percolating to the surface. I wish it was so simple as taking of my bra and hanging it up too air out , and shutting the closet door. But it's not,,,,
