Quote Originally Posted by Leslie Langford View Post
More to the point, are we sometimes subconsciously "competing" with our wives and SO's to see if we can be just as "feminine" or "girly" as we perceive them to be (or in those cases where the partners are not particularly "girly" in a "Barbie" sort of way, leave them behind in the dust as we pursue our own version of "femininity")? Do our partners sense this, and is that one of the main reasons why our crossdressing is such a huge turn-off for some of them?

Do other here feel the same way sometimes? Thoughts, anyone?
I'm reading this somewhat differently than Jennifer.

IF you or any other CDer subconsciously feel envious of your wives' (or other women's) femininity, and you forego appreciating them (in ways that men appreciate women) in order to approximate their femininity or pursue your own version of it, then yes, this would be a turn off for many women.

There's the classic example of a couple going out to a fancy event. The wife comes downstairs dressed to the nines and looking fantastic. Her CD husband can't take his eyes off her, but instead of appreciatively saying "Wow, you look great" (in a way that lets her know he wants her), he instead says "How I wish I could wear what you're wearing and look like you". This would devastate me if I were in the wife's shoes.