Dear Leslie ...I think what you have analyzed was very accurate to what I'm going thru ,,,and all is true ...but I feel in great advantage to use the two modes to our advantage ,,,Yes I feel the sexual arousing when I see a sexy lady but at the same time I turn my feminine mode to analyze her hair and cloths ,,,The only difference is that I feel in a big advantage of both worlds ....The only feeling of shame is that to be caught because the world will be very cruel to our judgment ,,,What if no social worries of being caught if you just wear tight skirt with boobs hanging around and just walk to the streets with no reaction from anybody ,,,then we will do our Cds with no shame ,,,matter of fact we will strive to do more than what women do ,,,and that is exactly what other crossdressers have done once they mastered the social ambiguities in life ..