This is only true of gender motivated dressers. I know at least three wives whose husbands dressed LESS as they got older and their sex drives decreased. One stopped entirely. I think this forum is guilty of forgetting about the other crossdressers out there (the majority, perhaps?) who are the sexually motivated kind. They are not any easier to live with even if the path is slightly different!Originally Posted by Michelle789
And I actually agree in part with Paula - plenty of women lose trust after disclosure (maybe the majority?) but there are also some who find out early in the relationship and think they're okay with it, only to dislike it more and more as time passes. I'm guilty of this. The 'oh gawd, there really is no end to this' is definitely something I've thought. Who wouldn't? Crossdressing can be consuming and relentless...and very, very boring!!! Who wouldn't wish it away?? It's like having your very own Ground Hog Day.
From my perspective, the real root of the problem is crossdressing just doesn't mesh well with heterosexual life and what we expected from it. Let's face it - you're throwing a bigger social spanner into a relationship than the alcoholic, cheating, bipolar dude. At least people will sympathise if you marry one of them...AND he looks like a dude! You look like someone our brother might date and that's a head spin most heterosexual women can't overcome. If we wanted to date someone who looked like a woman, wouldn't we just date an actual woman? So what does crossdressing offer us other than sexual confusion and some long, lonely, boring nights?? A happy husband. For some women, thats enough. For others, they want to share in the happiness and can't because crossdressing upsets them too much. Compromise isn't always possible either, because the wives are literally compromising on their innate self, as you would be by not dressing as needed.
If I'm honest, I don't think there are many women in this world who would choose a crossdressing partner. They're out there, I'm sure, but they're scarce, and because you outnumber us a gazillion to one, either you decide to remain alone (which is so unnecessary!) or you accept some limitations on your dressing and try and enjoy your life in a relationship that comes FIRST. Learn self control and self awareness, and NEVER blame obsessive dressing on a 'Pink Fog'. From a wife's point of view, you're acting like a petulant child, and giving it a cutesy name doesn't make it less destructive.
