If you have taken anything I have written to be a show of anger at you, I apologize. That was not my intent. Not one bit.
No, it doesn't help. Not at all. And this is something I know lots about. All of it based on personal alcohol abuse experience. Except that you at least recognize now that it doesn't help. So you are already much farther ahead in the game than I was when I was where you currently are. It took me really until this year to figure out and understand just how detrimental to the process alcohol can be. It can undermine everything. And for me, I couldn't see that until I removed it from the equation.
That is awesome for you, Paula. I couldn't be happier for you. I suppose my mistake this entire time has been my complete and total failure to look at this logically and adopt a "git er done" philosophy. Hmmm. Totally my bad. Drats.