Natasha, this 'community' reluctance to admit when it's a 'fetish' when clearly the writing is on the wall (or the forum!) almost destroyed my marriage! For years my H denied what I knew at the pit of my stomach, denied over and over again despite me begging for real communication, finally culminating in me threatening divorce and he sitting down and admitting what dressing means to him. Yes, it's sexual and he was ashamed.
That's incredibly sad in my mind, and I know he had been 'advised' by others at forums he'd apparently frequented to play down the sexual aspect. But we wives, we just want honesty. I'd say society as a whole wants that, too, so there's little to gain by calling it one thing while behaving another.
I think this 'community' crossdressing idea is dangerous. You're all too different and your reasons for dressing too unique to box each other in like this. Many days I read here and women's clothing seems the only thing you all have in common. Surely this alone speaks volumes that there is no right or wrong way to crossdress? There's just men dressing like women for as many reasons as there are stars.
Tink's two cents...worth about half here these days, lol
