@Samantha Rogers - yep, that's exactly what I'm talking about.
@Lucy Bella - yes, I can agree that there is a difference between a need for feminine expression, and a need for feminine identity. If there weren't CDs and DQs wouldn't exist, and we'd all just be trans.
My point is that trying to say there's thing thing called a fetish for feminine expression that appears to be exactly identical to the behavior of many who also have feminine identities, but don't know it yet, is a very questionable proposition. Because you, me, or the best therapist or neurologist on earth can't tell whether or not someone will transition until after the fact.
It's reassuring to think "no way that could happen to me." And for most of you, that's probably true. But not for all, and no one will no for sure until it's rather late in the game.
