Dear Mechamoose, I can understand your situation. But you are lucky in one way. Your wife is ready to be the "boy" in the relationship. My condition is opposite to your condition. I am only 5 feet tall (same as my wife) and 120 lb, about 5 or 6 lb more than my wife. I have a hairless body. During my childhood, when I crossdressed, my mother told me I looked more beautiful than my sisters. Even now, when I crossdress, nobody can make out that a male body is hiding inside the clothes. I do not like the male role in the bed room. I want my wife to dress as a man and make love to me assuming that I am the woman. She will not accept anything; she is not even ready to accept my crossdressing and she is not ready to dress as a man when only both of us are around. I know that she used to play male roles in college dramas. But she won't do it for me.