It's ironic, but so many of us who are gender variant are some of the staunchest defenders of the gender binary. We may cross the lines, but we are damn well certain that those lines exist! Perhaps it's because we so desperately need our bodies to conform to what our minds tell us we should be seeing. The pain from that makes us not understand others who don't suffer from the exact same discomfort. Or, perhaps we are all really conditioned to follow society's norms, with the exception of ourselves and others who look like us. If so, that's kinda short-sighted, if you ask me. (And rather judgmental.)Originally Posted by mechamoose
I do know that what you complain of is very real. One of my GF's (the butch), would have no problem with how you present. The other one (the femme), would totally freak out about it and not understand it at all.
Anyway hon, I'd talk to you at an event, and I'd hang with you. There's nothing wrong with being a big strong furry girl with a beard. Just not one thing. I love all the wondrous variations on gender that exist out there, and make us all so unique.
I may be just weird, but what I do, kind of automatically now, is when I look at one of us, I try to figure out who that person is on the inside, and then kind of see them that way when I look at them. Anyway, it's the stuff inside that I really care about.
