I always thought that gay had to do with which gender one is sexually attracted to. I think that was the original intention of the word. However, it seems to me that part of the cross-dressing fantasy is to be accepted or to be able to pass as a female (male to female). This would follow that a man would be attracted to me. Although this freaks me out, I do get fantasies about being on the female end of a sexual encounter. I am married and am very attracted to women, so I do not think of myself as gay. But while dressed up, this other part of me emerges from time to time. It might come under the category of bi-curious, although I have no intention of ever going that far....ever. My conclusion is that having gay thoughts in itself is not enough to be categorized as gay. Everyone has those. Just saying. I think it has more to do with gay sexual intentions on a permanent or lifestyle basis.
