^.^

I think people have hit the right tone on their responses. Assuming you don't want to reveal your own lifestyle to your co-workers,
and possibly attract their scorn and such, you really have to either leave things alone, or pick a rather general response that kinda
puts the focus of attention on their own attitudes and such. Or simply tell them you don't think what is going on is appropriate.

If things really get uncomfortable, you may want to take things to HR, although it may also mean you come out of the closet as far
as they are concerned. However, most HR departments are pretty good about keeping things confidential.


In my own case, I came out while working for Capital One's credit card division, and the only comments I ever got there were supportive.
Not saying that there weren't detractors, but they kept to themselves and didn't associate with me, and the call center was large enough
that I never noticed it. The HR department there was excellent in handling the matter. I think I may have told the story here about the one
time I was heading to the bathrooms, and while crossing the hallway, my path crossed with three GGs, who kinda snickered and giggled after
they walked by. I thought nothing of it, except that I could be a better woman than they could, but HR was concerned, and told me that if anything
like that happened again to let them know.

I currently work at a survey center. When I returned to working here after my stint at the Capital One call center, I was mostly accepted. Two older
GGs who used to socialize with me stopped, and the main supervisor there had to have the awkward talk about which bathroom i *WOULD* be using.
(I actually found a unisex bathroom in the basement that is best for all sides ... ) But since then, both him, my other supervisors, and my other
co-workers are very nice about my cross-dressing. I even inspired one GG co-worker with my dress style.

On my third job, I have come into work dressed up before, and my main supervisor has seen me dressed, and I emailed him about it at the beginning
of the athletic season. However, since this job entails dealing with massive numbers of the general public, and because the objective is to get people
into the events venue and it's not about ME, I dress as a man.

So it depends basically on the kind of job you are doing, and the attitudes of the people there. There was an ammunition manufacturer that has moved
into town (THANKS COLORADO!) and I applied for a position with them. However, if hired, i would not dress as a woman there, again because of the work
environment, and because of workplace safety issues.

However, I know you will do what is best for yourself, and this will turn out good in the end.


Amy M. Jackson