Quote Originally Posted by Sara Jessica View Post
Passing is a ridiculous concept. I've often pointed out that no one ever really knows if they reach that holy grail because you can never really know exactly what happens in your wake. Sure, you might get by without anyone giving you the obvious "a-ha" look but once you walk on by, all bets are off. You don't know what they are saying and unless you are constantly looking over your shoulder, you won't see them do the requisite double take, or worse.
This idea is super important, thank you.

You/We see the 'polite' responses, the 'non-confrontational' ones. We have NO idea what anyone near us *thinks*, and what they would say if they *could*.

Hence my point. Camouflage, be definition, means that you have successfully blended. The 'enemy' doesn't see it.

Is that enough? If they *saw* you as a boy who happened to look like a pretty girl, is that a failure?

If they accept you in that mode, did you *miss* something?

I just want to be me (as dissonant as I am) and have it be 'bumpless'. I want to do what I do and have *NO* attitude in response.

(poke at the facts, it will eventually reveal the truth)

- MM