Hell-o Mikell
Congrats on that first meeting, going in guy mode per your wife's
request is completely understandable. Now you know what to expect
should you decide to attend another meeting dressed.
As others have already said, terminology shouldn't matter, people should
realize, and understand, that no matter what you, or they are, you
are a guy who chooses to present himself as a woman.
Your there for support, not an English lesson.
It's good to hear you think you would have felt comfortable being dressed
with the group. I hope you are able to go dressed in the future.
Maybe head out afterwards?
Much Love,
Kristyn