Quote Originally Posted by char GG View Post
What strikes me as odd is that he was married three times!

I can understand one time, maybe two, but three?
I see we haven't done a good enough job explaining sexuality vs gender identity. If we could somehow convince the SOs and GGs here that the majority of time the TG's desires in sexual matters doesn't change. Even having the physical parts doesn't direct who you love.

So how do we explain this that makes sense? If you like women, you will likely always like women. The hormones, the clothes the actions doesn't change that. This isn't just for the GGs here, convincing younger TGs that they don't have to switch is just as hard because we are educated from a young age that A goes into B. This has been a recent area of discussion for me. I have been asked twice this week if I want a man now. Hard for me to answer because that was never a question in my mind. I am attracted to either BUT I prefer women. Short answer is "Who ever I fall in love with". But that is meI have felt the same since I had feelings in sex at all. Since the majority (we have done polls in the past) of the members here prefer heterosexual male to female relations, that is most likely to stay the same IFthey transition(and that is UNLIKELY).

The top two questions SO's ask their TG mates when they come out are: 1) are you gay. We have established here that 90% are not but I understand that when you are exposed to transgender in any fashion on TV, it appears that way. And considering the TG mate kept it to themselves, suggesting a lack of trust in the SO's ability to handle it, I think it may be an excellent question. However when they say "no" you can believe it usually. 2) do you want to transition? Most of the time this too will be "no". Many here are comfortable with the relations they have, thus keeping this part a secret out of fear of losing the best thing they ever had and have no desire to change genders. Usually they speak the truth there too.

Multiple marriages in the land of ElLay, seem to be the standard also. No one questioned the sexuality of Mickey Rooney, Zsa Zsa, Liz Taylor, Ava Gardner, Larry King, Richard Prior. People get married and often find they aren't compatible. The average American gets married twice. Jenner's three is just normal. If you watched the interview his ex's are not bitter over it. Also he was married three times...you don't know how many dates or affairs (if any) he had to ...women.

If this forum could do anything good in the world it would be to get rid of those two stereotypes.


Gender doesn't equal sexuality