I feel transgender but don't want any operations. Is this a thing?

[RachelsMantra]

You are definitely not alone.

You get to live your own life..Don't make it complicated.. You can live how you want, you can dress how you want, and nobody but yourself gets to decide..

Its easy to understand if you consider that a transsexual mtf person is a woman.

You are or you are not a woman. Transsexuals get these surgeries because they are women. Transsexuals get these surgeries (and HRT) because they suffer soul crippling gender dysphoria and those procedures literally can cure it.

You feel you are not a transsexual so what's the worry?
Why are you comparing yourself to transsexuals?

I'd be wary if i were you spending too much time thinking about transsexuals and how you compare to them.
Just present as you wish and its all good.

Im mainly comparing myself to transgendered people more generally but I also can relate to transsexuals because transsexuals typically want some kind of procedure(s) done to make them more feminine. Right now I only want one procedure done (electrolysis). But it's still wanting at least one feminization procedure. This seems distinct from crossdressers who want zero procedures done.

Is all dysphoria necessarily "soul crippling"? I think I have from a very mild form. For example, I don't like my blue beard shadow after I shave - so I want electrolysis. But my penis causes me no dysphoria at all. I have mild dysphoria about breasts but wearing a bra and padding makes me feel happy enough that I dont want to sacrifice the ability to be able to pass as a man if I want to (which I do, especially for my worklife). I think dysphoria is not an all or nothing phenomenon. I think it comes in degrees and I just have a mild form.

You said you either are or are not a woman. Is this so black and white, so clear cut? What about bigenderism? I think you can be a man and a woman at the same time but it doesnt have to be a perfect 50/50 ratio. The ratio can be variable too.

Don't make it complicated? Gender is a complicated thing! There's a whole field of complex gender studies.

I can relate Rachel. I am coming to terms with my place on the "trans spectrum". And since "trans" is Latin for "across" or "cross", I have always taken "transgender" to mean "across the gender line". How far across is entirely up to the person crossing.

I feel the folks who only identify as CD dance on the very edge of the line, but because they present either in private or public as contrary to their birth or identified gender they technically qualify as "transgender" by the strictest of definitions. Everything else is politics. I prefer not to be political, but I may make some enemies with this post.

Ultimately, do it if it makes you happy, and under no circumstances should you do if it does not! You are the one who lives in your own skin and within the confines between your ears, no one else. You are here because you have accepted that much. Don't be defined by anyone else if the definition does not fit, be whomever you choose/were chosen to be. Even destiny can be thwarted, but it hurts like Hades own ball-sack to do so.

Choose, do not allow yourself to be chosen for.

Ok, TLDR. Sorry for the rant. Love yourself first.

Very well said thank you. I agree that ultimately it comes to choice and autonomy. Of living by the law that I write in my own heart.