Scotti,
I truly believe it is not that simple... We humans are a very complex bunch. Our experiences shape us, and then in turn we shape our experiences. Sometimes, to change a bad experience into a good one (or vice versa), all it takes is a new perspective; a new belief about that situation... I have had horrendous experiences become life-altering revelations because of that. I have had glorious new experiences become dirty, shameful acts in the same way...
Attraction is a mental thing, not physical.
DeeAnn,Originally Posted by flatlander_48
There are scads of mental processes that are no more a "choice" than breathing, or a heartbeat, and yet they are still "mental" processes. Sometimes, these processes are impossible to remove, but nothing is resistant to change... Sometimes the only change possible is acceptance. If attraction were purely physical then penises would be drawn to vaginas and vice versa. It is not that simple, and I surely never meant to imply that it was. I am the sum of my experiences and I am trying to come to terms with my self (be he male or be she female, or even something in-between).
There is always a choice. Sometimes the choice is "accept or die". Sometimes the way to acceptance is changing one's perspective... I am NY NO MEANS saying that people can choose to be "not gay" or "not female" or "not human" or even the converse of these... But you can choose how you deal with being "gay" or "female" or "human"... You can deny yourself, and become a bitter and destructive being; or you can accept that aspect of yourself and create a new life, a new world.
People are very, very, very complex and complicated creatures. We alone of the animal kingdom can process our world in the way we do, to alter it around us so drastically...
Anyone who claims to be in full control of their mental processes is either lying or the next evolution of humanity... I certainly do not claim either...
Thanks, OCCarly!
