Being part of a community doesn't mean you are all clones. A community can just be people who have similar interests and goals.

So many CDs here bemoan that they can't go out, or that they can't dress because their wives don't like it (or bosses or dogs whatever). That they feel marginalized by the world. And yet, when the opportunity arises for something to change, they scream they don't want to play in that sand box.

Fact, no one except your mind has even made a rule that says that men cannot wear dresses or skirts (at least in the countries represented in this forum). Fact, because you fear being different, you hide it. Fact, if tomorrow fashion all ove the US said Men's dresses are the new in thing" 99% here would cry that they didn't want that either.

But back to the community aspect. In the 70's farm workers were being abused by farm owners. Low pay, poor working conditions, no or substandard housing. Many were from Mexico, some from other Latin American countries. All shared a language, skin tone usually and a desire to get ahead in life. The Mexicans didn't like the Guatemalans who didn't like the Hondurans who hated the New Mexicans. But in order to get better lives, better working conditions, money, health care, they banded together. They put their differences aside. It helped thy had a common nemesis, slave driving farmers, but they fought together.

Do we really need a Cesar Chavez, or Martin Luther King Jr or Susan B Anthony to come along to get us to stand together? It is so easy for most here to just disappear when thing get tough. Thus the I don't wanna be associated with....crowd. You let others lead the way but you are very happy to reap the rewards. You won't take part in the losses though. How nice is that.

The article really doesn't say anything that is earth shaking. It is at best a weak essay. The writer doesn't address the answers to the issues but instead tries to get sympathy, without result, from a small group of people. Just think, if that group of people was 100 fold larger, the message would be heard louder.

You can complain about the sand in your shorts or you can do something about it.