This is the kind of thing that brings out the dreamers and fantasy transitioners.Originally Posted by becky77
There is no universe where pain and cost don't accompany a gender transition. You either feel like it's all worth it, or you don't. It's really not so dramatic at the end of the day, if you pay attention you'll notice that all of the hand wringing is left to the fence sitters. I also don't like the idea of measuring the severity of someone's GD. First it's impossible, and second who gives a damn? It's either bad enough to warrant action or it's not right?
I think the people who are not transitioning (despite weird protestations to the contrary) are doing the right thing. I cannot understand why someone would think it was beneficial to get these procedures and endure a transition if it wasn't something they were absolutely driven to do. Life as a transwoman is hard and it's kinda ridiculous to argue otherwise. Surgery that changes the way you look is a huge help, and I'm happy with my reflection, but I can't say for sure that I would do it again knowing what I know now.
People here in the TS forum really need to stop playing at this like it's a fun fantasy game. It isn't. It's not healthy for people who are trying to find themselves to see this kind of stuff. We need reality here. We need to see the good, the bad and the ugly here. I feel like there are too many people who have romanticized transition and that's fine for the other parts of this huge forum, but I think we really need to keep it real in our tiny little corner.
