Is the world today leaving us here behind?

[ReineD]

The one thing I want to point out is selection bias. The community on crossdressers.com, at least the one in this particular subforum,

But aren't the remarks addressed to the members who do participate regularly in this particular subforum?

... is not representative of the general transgender/crossdressing population.

How have you measured this.

Statistics are available for people who seek medical help for gender dysphoria, but how can we know how many people have a male gender identity, do not want the crossdressing to impact their male lives, and so they do not seek HRT or other body modifications nor do they seek counseling.

The CDers still face prejudice and ridicule. That they do is wrong and crazy. How you present and dress should be your business. But as Paula as tried to patiently explain it will never change unless CDers take action.

My SO is not TS, therefore my SO is likely read more than a TS who has sought HRT and other physical modifications in order to rid herself of her male gender cues. Yet, when we go out we are not treated any differently than TSs. People do not ridicule us nor do they treat us in a prejudicial manner. If they disapprove, they keep their opinions to themselves although it is likely they just don't care because we have no impact on their personal lives. And judging by all the positive posts from other members here who go out like my SO, this seems to be rather universal.

Do not take action for the sake of the TS. Although greater visibility of CDers would probably help, we are already doing it for ourselves. Take action for the sake of other CDers. Take action to protect yourself if you are ever outed by accident or by a SO. Take action so we can all live in a saner and more accepting world.

If my SO should ever be outed at work or to his family, I don't think he would suffer any more than if he were TS and announce that she was transitioning? Wouldn't the people who choose to reject my SO because they hear (not see) that he crossdresses reject him less than if she was a TS who began presenting as a female all the time?

Look at marriages. Aren't there more marriages who survive with husbands who dress part-time than with husbands who discover are TS and who need to transition? Also look at work. If an employer hears than an employee crossdresses on her time off, wouldn't this have a lesser impact than if this employee were to show up at work presenting as a woman every day.

That does not mean all of you. Compared to Paula I do very little. But I am living full time and I am very visible. That in itself makes a difference.

But again, you are living full time! This is not the same as someone who wants to live as a male and only dress occasionally. Maybe the source of our disagreement is your belief that the only reason CDers crossdress occasionally is because they want to dress full time but are afraid of the negative consequences of doing so?