Doesn't matter. Remember the movie 'real women have curves'? Way too many women took that phrase and ran with it, basically saying to the male population, 'this is what we look like, take it or leave it', getting fatter and fatter, cutting their hair off, and wearing tents. And then got upset when we decided to leave it and pursue immigrant women who still knew that men like attractive ladies.Originally Posted by AngelaYVR
about a dozen years ago, I 'upgraded' my male wardrobe, and then, little by little, everything else in my life. Up until then, I was your typical guy, jeans or khaki's, T, polo, flannel or sweat shirt, windbreaker or denim jacket, sneakers. I took better care of my cars than I did of myself. I decided I should look like what I would want a man to look like if I were a woman.
Gone were the cheaper looking casual shirts; dress shirts became the mainstay of my wardrobe. Perhaps without a tie, but virtually always some sort of a button down design. Now, I'm not saying I never wear polo or rugby shirts, but they are the exception rather than the rule. I still had my nice cufflinks from the 70's, so I got some shirts with French cuffs, too; felt nice, and I've gotten compliments on them, something I never heard while in casual attire. Dress slacks too, with nice alligator leather belts. Nice dress leather shoes instead of sneakers. Dark socks instead of white athletic ones. Blazers or suits instead of windbreakers. Beautiful cashmere overcoat instead of antarctic parkas when it's cold. Leather or wool/leathergloves instead of ski gloves. Fedora instead of baseball cap or a beanie. Nice analog watch with a leather band instead of digital with the cheap rubber band.
It made a difference, not just to others, but to myself as well. I found myself foregoing fast food when alone, using diners and restaurants instead. Going to bakeries instead of dunkin donuts . I started going to the barber every month instead of just waiting until my hair started to become unruly. Shaved off my scraggly facial hair for the first time in 30 years too. The list of changes in my life started to increase. It may seem just a lot of little things, but today I feel like a different man. And I've noticed a change in the behavior of other people in my life as well. Be more, and expect more. You'll find that some people will respond to that. Not everyone, but some will.
