Are there those here that are know inside they are really TS?

[Zooey]

And my GG is a male, yet her identity is not an identity all to itself? Oh wait, yes it is. She is my girly bear, and is all that rough fur and prettiness all at once.

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She is still a GG, but that isn't how she would identify if all the 'rules' were suspended. She is a boy in a GG body.

What "rules"? Societal rules have no bearing on one's actual self-identity, although they may affect how comfortable one is with expressing it.

Does your wife self-identify as a man, or are you projecting that on them because they're not conventionally feminine? That's a sincere question; it's not clear to me from your post.

As far as I'm concerned, if your wife self-identifies as a man, he's a man - not a woman. Good for him.
If they identify as a non-binary gender, they're whatever they say they are. Good for them.
If she identifies as a woman, then good for her and please stop this line of reasoning.

The same applies for your identity.