Quote Originally Posted by Dana44 View Post
Katey, great thread... As you all know I am gender fluid. It is a strange thing as we are not comfortable in our own skin as one gender. It does put us in the middle of the TG spectrum. But it seems that over time one drifts closer to one gender than the other. Hopefully it goes back toward the birth gender. As a male who gets to express his fem side. Well, the fem side seems better, but is it really. As a male I've accomplished many great things and am still doing it. But this male is getting more and more feminine all of the time. I would never transition fully to a female as I could never be comfortable with that either. A very strange place to be.
Dana44 You are very vocal on saying you are Genderfluid. As I understand it that means that your very identity swings from male to female?
But are you being honest with yourself? Is your gender truly fluid or do you just want to dress as a woman sometimes and at other times not?

I ask this as I'm not sure everyone is being truthful in regards to identify vs expression.

For example in a previous thread you said this:
Lexi, that is a great point. I do think that some ... do think we are good. They are most likely shocked. For why I do not know. Women crossdresss virtually every day and never ask what we thought of them or why it may have bothered us. I said before in a forum that in fact with many men that I have talked to was that if she doesn't get in heels soon a divorce may be coming. Men want a woman that looks like one. Now the rolls seemed switched. It's funny that we set the fashion every time we go out wearing skirts while every woman out there has pants on. When a woman come into a store in a nice skirt and heels. All of the men look at her with admiration. So women crossdress as men - no problem. Men crossdress as women - problem? Yeah I agree... they pine on it for sure.
I must say that my SO wears a dress or miniskirt when we go out. I have told her that I truly appreciated that.

I'm sorry but I do not believe a woman or someone claiming to have a part woman identity would ever say this.
I would expect if you were truly gender fluid you would understand why that opinion is just wrong and frankly misogynistic. It smacks of a sexualised ideal of a woman not someone with genuine female empathy.

I'm not saying being Gender fluid is a myth but so far I haven't seen an honest example other than Marcelle. Who now admits to being TS.
I'm genuinely intrigued and wish to learn but I fear a few people just can't be honest with themselves. My main confusion being that each time I ask why someone feels they are in the middle they inevitably talk about being feminine in a way that borders on stereotyping.

What I want to hear about is the internal dialogue, those feelings of being different and how it surfaces in a relationship and social interactions.
How does it come out in friendships etc.The clothes are meaningless when it comes to true Gender identity.
For example if you are closeted but out with friends how does your mixed gender surface, are your friends also mixed?
Forgetting for now about the dressing does being dual gender cause issues with being intimate with someone?

Hope you don't mind the questions but this is a great learning tool.