Sounds to me like you've been cding for awhile now and have just finally admitted it to yourself. Whatever. Feels so good huh.
I just recently came out to my wife and we are in that limbo where I give her time to adjust and wait to see just where we are. She was ok with me doing it if it makes me happy but I don't think she understands. How could she when I can't really nail it down myself. This is all good advice here and I'm inclined to say go with your instincts as far as how she will take it.
My biggest regret is not doing it sooner, thinking of opportunities I've missed, etc. But then all things have their time and this was apparently the right time for me.
The best thing is to think it all through and know ahead of time how you are going to respond to her questions or have the questions she should ask at hand.
Go to the sticky about telling your SO and read. Marci has great advice and Q and A that will help you be prepared and several links that will be helpful for your wife.
As to why, I had a few hours at work last night to think about it and I came to some conclusions that make sense in my case. That will be a separate post.
Liz
