PaulaQ; I love your clarity, as ever, speaks true to me.
I would say due to social pressures most males do suppress an inherent sexuality associated with other males, a sexuality as you say, is unromantic, purely sexual in nature. That would be the "gay/bi" aspect of myself aged 15-20. My romantic side and indeed my sexual-attraction have only ever been towards women.
Being happily married the labels don't matter, i get everything i need there. So whether it's now technically lesbian, who cares. In the end humans love humans and have sex with humans - or vacuum cleaners or other fetishes :-) So what, the world is being destroyed so let's not worry about other people's proclivities.
xxx Pamela
