Quote Originally Posted by docrobbysherry View Post
But, my definition of gay is a male attracted to male parts. Whether or not a person defines themselves as male is up to each individual.
It's like quantum mechanics. The same laws that govern the observable universe do not apply to sub atomic particles. We can't use the same terms for cisgenders AND the T community, because unlike cisgenders whose understanding it is that the terms describe sexual characteristics, the T community refer to their gender identities which often do not match their sexual characteristics.

I don't know why people whose gender identities don't match their sexual characteristics want to debate terms like straight, gay, or lesbian. If they want to describe themselves they should simply state how they identify and who they're attracted to (with an understanding they are describing gender identity and not sexual characteristics). It's only 8 more words than simply saying "straight", "gay" or "lesbian". This takes no more than 3 seconds. It's simpler and more understandable than coming up with (and having everyone else adopt), brand new single-word terminology that describe all three: the gender identity, the current state of visible sexual characteristics, and the sexual preferences of someone to whom this applies.

Once a person has transitioned and is totally absorbed into society as their target gender, there is no confusion when they use the same terms as cisgenders because effectively, they are seen as cis by everyone, whether they've had SRS or not.