Defining Gender Fluid

[Zooey]

so you get it now....me either....

Thank you for writing that! I still don't get it, but I appreciate it.

I guess I still don't see the bit where your actual gender identity is fluid. I see a man who's very comfortable with/enjoys a very fluid and non-conforming gender expression.

This is not specific to you, btw - please don't think I'm picking on you. This is something I struggle to understand in general, maybe because I'm expecting something to exist that doesn't, or maybe I'm projecting.