You're focusing on the wrong parts of the problem, and arguably proving my point for me. This obsession with "being challenged" is pointless, and so not the problem.
All of us, at least those of us who leave the house, can be challenged. We can be stared at, pointed at, whatever. There is literally nothing we can do to prevent that. There is no legislation that will prevent uncomfortable staring. Passing privilege is a thing, and even as a person who seems to benefit from it more often than not, it's hard. It's an ever-present drain, but it's the price of being yourself.
So... When I get stared at, I have no choice but to pick myself up and move forward. When somebody points, I give them the evil eye and move on, because I have to buy groceries, go to work, etc. It doesn't matter if I'm on my last shred of ability to deal with it that day/week/month, or even if I'm beyond that. This is my life, and I have to live it. It doesn't matter if I had a terrible day at work and then went straight from really intimidating men whistling and telling me to smile to an old man in the grocery store staring me straight in the eyes while I'm waiting in line for the self-checkout. It's my life.
When a CD gets challenged too much and gets uncomfortable, they get to go home, wash up, and go do their business as a man. Maybe they decide not to go out again. Maybe they decide that they'll only go to the "easy places" when "dressed". Maybe they only go out at night where the harsh light of the sun doesn't reveal all of their flaws.
They have the luxury of hiding, and yes, it is a luxury. CDs can go back to a privileged male identity any time they want. CDs have the luxury of getting to have fun "as a woman" (or so they think), but never have to deal with the actual reality of living as one.
This is how you end up with a bunch of men in panties spewing hot identity-erasing air, so often laced with some of the most sexist/misogynistic junk I've seen.
