"Are you a woman!"

[arbon]

I could have quoted a dozen different posts in this thread, but I chose yours arbon, because it was the clearest, and really rubbed me the wrong way.

Why? I was not attacking or belittling anyone. I did not say cross dressers should not use the bathroom per how they are presenting themselves.
Only stating that I don't believe that we have the same issues and that we are not fighting the same fights and that we are not on the same team or that we are on the same spectrum.

Some people (in fact many muggles) say that if you're born a man, you'll never be a woman, no matter how many operations you may choose to have.

Yes. When you transition it is one of many things you have to deal with. Have you had to face that issue?- knowing your a woman and people saying your a man? Have you gone down that road with your wife, your children, friends, your employer, with your health care? It is not the same as getting them to accept your cross dressing, but having people accept you as a woman.

But, why can't you even consider that a crossdresser (or at least some crossdressers) would transition if it didn't mean that they might lose their wife, their family, their job and many of their friends.

Because a cross dresser does not need to transition, they are not a woman.
That is not to say there are not people here currently identifying as cross dressers who are ts or women and just haven't realized or accepted it yet. When they do, it will all look very different to them and the conversation is not going to be the same.

Since I'm 5'9", 150 lbs and wear a size 14 top and size 12 bottoms, in many ways, I'm more passable than the 1 out of 3 GG women who are obese or severely obese. When I'm dressed as a girl, it would be pretty hard to determine if I was "just a CD", bigender or a pre-op or non-op TS, without giving me a psychological test.

The women you are comparing yourself to are women and don't need to worry about passing, it is a non issue to them. Your not. It is pretty crude/rude/wrong that you would actually say what you said there.

You may very well pass better then I do too. Should I care? I know who I am and I live it. It does not change with my wardrobe. I don't have to emulate anyone. Understand the difference? Which gets to the point of why we don't share the same issues, even in the bathrooms.