lingerieLiz, I think we can at least try our best to understand each other. Yes there's no way for different people with different experiences to truly agree on something. But by talking more, we may come to find a shared experience that both side can relate with and understand each better.
Zooey, the "gay" example you brought up is different from "I feel like a woman". You brought a good example though that I can relate with, and that's a good startBut, are you saying "I feel like a woman" is not cool and being used for bad things like "gay"? No, it's different. We are saying "I feel like a woman" just as an expression. If anything, it means very variably, from positive to negative. From the sound of your saying, I think you are thinking bad of "I feel like a woman" and finding it rude. Am I correct here? But what I'm saying is that it's all in your thought. No one here is saying "I feel like a woman", at least in forum here, not to imply something negative. It's more related to the feeling of being happy/excited/relaxed/aroused/accepted, which are more of positive things.
No one here is reducing women to their exterior/aesthetic. We still love and understand our female SO. And yet we still "feel like a woman" sometimes, because it makes us feel good. And the "didn't mean it like that" part, I have to ask, is it only just you who thinks negatively about all this, or it's rather more a pattern of all who identified as a woman? Until you can confirm that, your statement of "You don't get a free pass just because you didn't mean it like that" is rather weak. Because who knows other woman may not think overtly about this at all.Originally Posted by Zooey
- Bonnie
