There are no 'wires', this isn't something simple, as much as so many people wish it was. Every brain is different. Or we'd all think the same. There are no simple discernable major differences in easily observable physical structure that can explain why men and women think in different ways. The differences between men's and women's brains will be found at the molecular level, patterns of connections, and the electrochemical reactions that occur which cause or result in thoughts; problem is, you'll find that all those bonds are also different even between identical twins. We're quite far away from being able to analyse that and be able to compare and assign which molecule bonds result or cause each thought. Looking for simple answers to this will just make one more confused, because there is no SIMPLE answer, and as of yet, we don't have the complicated answer.
Then you have to add to the fact that our brains aren't ever 'finished'. Every time you add new information, something in your brain changes. New connections are made, others are broken.....at the molecular level. And no, you can't see it by looking in an ear.
You can actually intentionally forget something. Which means, that whatever way that memory was stored, can be partially or completely destroyed, just by thinking in a certain way (whether it's done consciously or subconsciously).
Just some food for thought, for those who think they're likely to get an answer to this anytime soon.