She always thought you were a little fem and married you anyway? She never asked if you were a crossdresser? Gay men seldom marry women--they can't stand the drama. " You would make an ugly woman"--( the competition scares her.) If she thinks you are a different person and "not the man I married"--how superficial! Did she marry a suit and tie--or a real person? Is she still the woman you married--gained a little weight? Cut her hair short? Wears jeans? Lost interest? Is it like living with your older sister?
Happened to me 15 years ago--still together, DADT--but gradually more flexible. She bought big storage tubs to store my dresses, wigs and shoes. (Outdoors in my shed).
If you purge--hide the wigs. But it will be fun shopping for new clothes.
Don't get a marriage counselor with a conservative viewpoint--mine convinced me to purge. (But I kept some of my girly things.)
