Jean, I think you've explained where you were coming from that day in the burger store.
Sometimes we invest in others' opinions or actions beyond what's appropriate. I think it's possible that you over reacted- others think your response was entirely justified, but I note that I'm not the only one who thinks as I do.
I see my use of the word fruitcake struck a chord with some members. Hey, we're men in dresses, pretending with varying degrees of success to pass as a woman, and NEWSFLASH some people find that amusing. Haven't you ever looked at some guy jogging by in bright red Reeboks and spandex and thought fruitcake?
Get over yourselves people, we're all going to end up in the crematorium soon enough- life's too short to put so much effort into wishing the world would change instead of us adapting to it.